How to counsel colleagues

The aim of counselling is to give an individual the confidence to take responsibility for any problems they may have and to find their own solution by exploring it from a fresh angle. As a manager, you should be able to exercise the skills used by counsellors to address the issues affecting staff performance.

Why is it important?

It is unlikely your department will always run as smoothly as it should, and counselling is an essential requirement for effective people management. It can range from dealing with the fallout from a personality clash, to the 'pick-up' counselling required after redundancies.

Many skills associated with counselling apply equally in everyday HR activities, such as asking the right questions and interpreting body language during selection interviews and team-building, and are also widely used in coaching.

There is a great deal of evidence to show that formal counselling can markedly reduce stress and absenteeism levels, and also has positive effects on job commitment and satisfaction.

A study for the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Counselling the Workplace, shows that workplace counselling reduced stress levels by 50 per cent and sickness and absence levels by between 25-50 per cent.

While this study pertains to every kind of counselling, it's safe to assume that effective counselling, even at a basic level, can pay dividends.

Where do I start?

As soon as a problem becomes evident, you must intervene. Set up an initial meeting and locate a suitable area, ideally in an informal setting, where you won't be interrupted. Set aside time for the counselling and tell your colleague how long you can spend with them - between 45 minutes and an hour is normally sufficient. Avoid bringing things to an abrupt or hurried close, as this will devalue the exercise. Keep an eye on the time and make sure you leave 10-15 minutes to summarise, suggesting a follow-up meeting if necessary.

Establishing ground rules at the start of the meeting is also a must. Reassure the colleague that anything said will be confidential unless otherwise agreed.

Don't take responsibility for the problem - it's not helpful for the worker, and having taken on someone else's stresses and strains, you might end up as the one needing counselling.

What skills do I need?

As a conscientious HR professional, you're probably equipped with most of them already, with a high emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) to boot.

You must be able to listen, empathise, explore and challenge while treating the colleague with respect. Be supportive, but make sure you ask questions that will help to build a fuller understanding of the situation, and interpret their body language. Empathising will encourage them to open up.

Don't offer advice or be directive, but instead encourage your colleague to reappraise their situation. The root of the problem may be blindingly obvious, but coaxing them to reach it by themselves is the desired outcome.

Know when to call in professional help

The consequences of inadequately dealing with issues such as alcoholism, substance misuse or trauma are too far-reaching not to seek fully-trained and qualified counselling support, so be heedful of your own limitations. This may also be appropriate where you have the training and experience to deal with the problem, but feel uncomfortable about becoming involved with a colleague over such delicate matters.

Where can I get more info?

Books

- Counselling for Managers
Nigel MacLennan, Gower Publishing, £26.50, ISBN 0566080923

- Counselling for Toads
Robert De Board, Taylor & Francis Routledge, £9.99, ISBN 0415174295

- Counselling Skills and Theory
Margaret Hough, Hodder & Stoughton Educational, £17.99, ISBN 034070179X

Directory

If you're thinking of counselling as a second career, the Training in Counselling and Psychotherapy Directory lists courses and providers.

D Chayton, British Association for Counselling, £18, ISBN 0946181616

Report

- Counselling in the Workplace: The Facts - A Systematic Study of the Research Evidence
Professor John McLeod, British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (2003), www.bac.co.uk

Websites

- Employee Assistance Professional Association
www.eapa.org.uk
The online home of the representative body for EAPs includes news and a list of providers and events

- British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
www.bac.co.uk

- British Psychological Society
www.bps.org.uk/index.cfm
Allows a search of the directory and register of chartered psychologists. It also has a useful FAQ section on the practicalities of using one.

If you only do five things...

1 Intervene as soon as a problem comes to light

2 Establish ground rules from the outset

3 Don't offer advice or be directive

4 Avoid taking on the employee's emotional burden

5 Be aware of your limitations

Expert's view: Kevin Friery on counselling colleagues

Kevin Friery is director of counselling at employee wellbeing specialist Right Corecare

Do HR professionals give enough credence to counselling, and have attitudes to counselling changed?

HR professionals are moving into a strategic field, whereas they once combined more of a personnel and welfare role. Public attitudes to emotional wellbeing have changed dramatically, and counselling has become more accepted as a mainstream source of help. There is sometimes a funding tension between HR and budget holders, and this can prevent effective counselling from being offered.

Do HR professionals make for natural counsellors, and what key skills are required?

The only necessary attribute for a natural counsellor is a genuine desire to help, and many HR professionals would fit into this category. The key skills beyond this can all be learned, and can be summed up as a willingness to listen, suspend judgement, be genuine, and willing to confront difficult feelings.

What are the common failings of counselling?

Two of the most common failings, especially in under-trained counsellors, are to talk about the counsellor's experiences rather than the employee's, and to offer advice based on the counsellor's perspective. It is not enough to be merely empathetic and supportive, however, because nothing will change for the employee.

To be effective, counselling needs to help the employee move forward, which often requires a degree of challenge in the relationship - but it is important to remember that counselling is done with, rather than to, an employee.